20 questions to ask yourself at end of year

Inspired by coaches and bloggers who do a wrap-up at the end of the year, I found a list of questions answered years ago, through a “tag” viral. I’ve adapted it and – voila!  your end 0f year checklist.

Pick one and answer yourself. Via Twitter, Facebook, email or comments. Pass it on.

What is one representative thing you did this year?

After spending the first few months of 2009 waiting for an answer for a job I wanted, and getting a negative in the end, I looked for an alternative.
So I asked myself – “What do I really want to do? What’s my end purpose?”

It’s developing people. I had wanted to start coaching for about 6 years. Why was I still waiting?

That’s how I enrolled to a coaching school, got a peer coach, started a blog, then built this website, started coaching, got more coachees…and here I am, 6 months down the road.

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    What date from 2009 will you remember, and why?

Ermm…9 Jan, I got proposed :) –> here.

    What did you learn from your biggest accomplishment in 2009?

That  you don’t need to wait until you can pursue your passion. You simply start. And if you enjoy it enough, success will come anyway.

    What did you learn from your biggest failure?

I learned that the things you say, and the approaches you have with people remain in their minds for a very long time. An impression creates an opinion. An opinion influences others. And that’s how you build a reputation – that can serve you wrong or right.
But it can all start from a minor remark.

    Compared to this time last year, are you:

    i. happier or sadder? Happier.
    ii. thinner or fatter? About the same, I guess.
    iii. richer or poorer? Richer – in all possible ways.

    What do you wish you’d done more of?

Being more quiet. Thinking more before I speak. Actually, I HAVE done this more, but there’s even more to be done.
Also, running. I’m very happy I managed to run 4 K at the Bucharest marathon. But next year I plan for 10 K.

    What do you wish you’d done less of?

Being afraid to go out there and do what I want.

    What did you want and get?

To be proposed. Damn, I’d been hoping for it for the past year or so.

    What did you want and not get?

The specific job I had applied for. Turned out, it was for the better good, after all – I wouldn’t have started coaching, without getting rejected.

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    What one thing would have made your year more satisfying?

Traveling more. I’ve been to just one country – Italy – and seen just one city (Venice). Ok, and two islands.

    Did you make new friends?

Yes, my boardgaming bunch of friends. We had so much fun together, meeting almost every Sunday to save the world yet again from the Ancient Evil One, or preparing for jumps to Caprica, or fighting werewolves.

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    Did you break old relationships?

Yes. Quite a big one. Family.

    Did a new acquaintance impact your life in a specific way? How?

My peer coach Ruba, who stood by me and guided me through this period of change. I think this is valid for any coach – a new relationship that impacts the coachee tremendously.

    What was the book that impacted you most? What did you learn out of it?

“How to cure a fanatic” by Amos Oz was definitely a good one. As was “The Last American Man” by Elizabeth Gilbert – not because I admire Eustace Conway, but because he pursued his dream and lived a life others thought insane in a civilized world.

    What blog/website impacted you most? Give a link!

There’s a whole list! I think the one I read most was dragosroua.com. Because I found my thoughts put in pixels by him.

    What investment are you most happy with?

My coaching school of course :)  it pays off now.

    What’s one thing on your purchasing wishlist for 2010?

Apart from a wedding dress and wedding band?
I don’t know. I don’t really think anything can be more important than my wedding ring. I’m gonna wear it for the rest of my life.

    What is one thing you wish you had more of, at end 2010?

Sense of life. Meaning.

    What is one change you want to make next year?

Does “Get married” count? :D That’s already decided.
I guess “Move out of the country” also fits the bill.

    Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2009.

Don’t wait. Don’t let life pass by. Do what you dream of. Go travel. Meet new people. Enjoy life more.

“It’s about encouraging you to stop wasting your life engaging in meaningless, trivial activities day in and day out–like sitting in a cube for 8 hours a day at a job you despise, typing up useless reports that no one is going to read anyway–to inspire you to start taking your dreams seriously,and to start doing things that inspire and excite you (wants), rather than things that drain and bore you (shoulds). It is my assertion that the shoulds are where we go all wrong.  It’s the shoulds that are causing us to lead lives of mediocrity, lives that we are unhappy with but don’t know, exactly, how to fix.”

(from themiddlefingerproject.org)

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9 Comments
  • Ash
    December 18, 2009

    I couldn’t agree more ;) Don’t let life pass you by – you only get one. Live it!!!!!!

    :)
    .-= Ash´s last blog ..Don’t Make Me Say Staycation =-.

  • Maria
    December 20, 2009

    Hey Ash, thanks for passing by :)

  • Andreea P
    December 21, 2009

    Very inspiring :) And good luck with the wedding… I am embarking on this journey as well next year :)

  • Liviu
    December 22, 2009

    Thank you, Mary!
    thank you for reminding me to go for the DREAM!

    …and of course… Congratulations for getting married ! :)

  • Dragos Roua
    December 24, 2009

    Hey, Maria

    This is powerful :-) I’m overwhelmed, to be honest, I didn’t see it coming. I am honored to have such fantastic readers. They are far better than me :)

    Congrats for the wedding, by the way! And for the other thing that fits the bill ;-)
    .-= Dragos Roua´s last blog ..The Sun Always Rises at Dawn =-.

  • Robyn
    December 24, 2009

    Excellent set of questions. Do you have a favorite game to play or do you create and design your own?

  • Maria
    December 25, 2009

    Hi Robyn,
    Most are my own, others are inspired from what I find on the web. I do love sets of questions, however, because most times they more powerful than single questions.
    And I believe that regular checkups of where you are in your life (yearly, at least) do good to your inner compass.

    Thank you for your appreciation and for your visit.
    Do drop by anytime!

  • Maria
    December 25, 2009

    Thank you Dragos :) coming from you, it’s a dear compliment.

  • Marian
    January 2, 2010

    x What is one representative thing you did this year?
    > Visited 8 places outside my country (Hong Kong, Manila, Bohol, Cebu and Palawan (last 4 in Phillipines), Macau, Barcelona, Deauville)

    x What date from 2009 will you remember, and why?
    > 1 january 09, when I wrote my resolutions

    x What did you learn from your biggest accomplishment in 2009?
    > Just do it, again and again

    x What did you learn from your biggest failure?
    > I should think long term

    x Compared to this time last year, are you:

    i. happier or sadder? Happier !
    ii. thinner or fatter? thinner !
    iii. richer or poorer? poorer lol

    x What do you wish you’d done more of?
    > Play more poker

    x What do you wish you’d done less of?
    > Playing less fotball manager on pc

    x What did you want and get?
    > Sorry, its secret

    x What did you want and not get?
    > Better results at poker

    x What one thing would have made your year more satisfying?
    > Redecorating my ap.

    x Did you make new friends?
    > Yes but few. Its ok

    x Did you break old relationships?
    > No

    x What was the book that impacted you most? What did you learn out of it?
    > Timothy Ferris – 4 hour work week . Best intro ever (tango scene)

    x What blog/website impacted you most? Give a link!
    > Poker Affiliate Listings

    x What investment are you most happy with?
    > A 400$ ebook for learning Pot Limit Omaha (poker)

    x What’s one thing on your purchasing wishlist for 2010?
    > Redecorating my apartment from scratch

    x What is one thing you wish you had more of, at end 2010?
    > Staying happy and a gorgeous girlfriend

    x What is one change you want to make next year?
    > Spending less, I waste too much. U dont wanna know

    x Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2009.
    I’m getting old. Too bad I started to eat healthy this late (30 years old)

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