Think about your most usual state.
Is it depressed? Anxious? Happy? Enthusiastic? Silent? Leading? Communicating? Contemplating? Vegetative?
What is the state of being that you will return to, once left alone?
Mine is a mixture of worried and contemplating. A mask with eyes looking somewhere far, and a bit of a frown. People frequently ask me why I’m upset. And that used to surprise me, until I realised that’s the composture my face automatically takes when it doesn’t express an emotion.
I usually get to this state when there’s no conversation around.
In physics, this is called the stable equilibrium. Meaning that a ball, inside a curved surface, will always go to the middle section. When left alone, it will roll to the center and remain there.
What’s your balance point?
Imagine the curve is your environment, and the ball is your state of mind.
What will your close environment look like, if you let it?
How will you feel about that?
Is there any way you would replicate that, in a conscious way?
Many times, when we want to balance out by creating a new habit, the ball is in an unstable equilibrium.
Our environment makes us uncomfortable, and we try to juggle the ball so that it stays on top.
It may stay there for a while, but at the slightest move, the ball will fall again. And it will go to the place of the least effort possible.
How can you turn the curve around?
How can you shape your close environment, so that it helps you stay in the balance point?
Make the ball rest, in its stable equilibrium, for as long as possible?