Motherhood, changes and the new tools for a good life

So a few months ago, I became a mom. I'm still undecided if posting pictures of babies online is an ok thing to do. So, here's a pic of me with a huge belly just before giving birth. Pregnancy was quite surprisingly easy to bear. I had no nausea, didn't gain much weight, got over my insomnia... But ...

Career Planning for Young Graduates

Source: http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2012/jul/04/unemployment-not-kids-problem   I recently took up two mentees from a student organization, and part of the Get To Know Each Other phase, we talked a lot about what they know and what they would like to know, about the "outside world", the corporate environment. We're talking about a reputed, large, well structured and well organized student ...

How to be a better communicator: be aware.

I'm conducting a series of 4 trainings on communication (although I'm not a full time trainer: it just came out that way). And I'm not an expert on communication or building relationships either. Heck, I would even say that is one of my weak areas. But I guess at a certain stage I decided I ...

What to do when you can’t figure out your Life Mission

I recently coached a young NGO leader on developing a conference for fresh graduates and master students, called "Heading for the Future". It's not the first time this conference was held, and I appreciated the idea even the first time I heard about it. But by working with Cristina, and wondering how we could better ...

1 year of Life Toolkit! Best posts & Coaching challenge

So one year of blogging passed away, quite fast.   What happened during this time? Looking back... - I started blogging like crazy, read all I could on SEO and social network promoting, then decided I should just let my readers unfold as they come. And that's how I got to this steady, smallish base of you ...

Transitions – internalizing learning

The second week of my transition to a new job has passed, and I find myself with an obvious conclusion. I'm treading on thin ice. Constantly aware of what I say and do, exposing my views ("you don't want to seem unopinionated", my angel on the right shoulder, or Self 1, advises) but careful not to let ...

The first steps of a transition

Since ages, I've loved transitions. The first days of falling in love; the changes of seasons; moving to a new place to live (ok, without the packing and unpacking); going back to school in autumn; and changing the job. Transitions spice up life. Without them, we would be caught in a neverending slumber. The only thing ...

How to switch from stress to enjoyment

One of the best advices I've been given throughout my life and career was "Stop taking yourself so seriously". As it might seem shocking to some, the man who gave me this advice was right. "Who, me? But - I have all reasons to be serious! This is ^%$*ing important!" - "See? My point exactly!" Taking myself too ...

The century of individualism

You know the world is full of infinite possibilities. Your parents told you "you can be anything you want". Or, if your parents did not tell us so, you quickly found that out from books, magazines or motivational movies. You quickly realized that in order to succeed you have to be unique. You explored how marketing comes up ...

Taking over a new role – part 2: Focusing

I wrote here about the transition experience to a new role, and how coaching questions can help you focus on the right areas. This post is about what comes next. The first week of a transition is an explosion. So much new information, new perspectives, and everything seems almost like a foreign language. What to maximize You get a ...

How to Minimize Complexity

I think we all agree on the increasing complexity that's in our lives. And, ironically, most of the things that are adding complexity are initially promising to simplify (for a quick example, just open your TV and check out the latest ad for the new mop that will forever take your mind off dusting. But ...

Shift a perspective, change a life

Coaching is a lot about shifting your perspective. As a matter of fact, the best added value, the best "a-ha" effects I've seen in my coaching relationships come from asking the right questions that make the client look at the problem from a different angle. Here are some of the most powerful perspective shifts I've experienced, or ...

Life Management 101

I'm not a master of life. But at least I'm a hard learning apprentice. Here are some things I found along the way. I'm sure you've thought about them too. The hard part is getting to do them. This is a crash course on managing your life and bringing it closer to where you want. Call it effectiveness ...