The Devil’s Advocate: Corporate Life

I don't believe in safety nets. I flew on my own to the US, not having a job or a place to stay, not knowing where I would sleep the first night. And it went ok. I travelled alone by train to countries where people don't speak English, and found that sign language actually works. I trusted people ...

The first steps of a transition

Since ages, I've loved transitions. The first days of falling in love; the changes of seasons; moving to a new place to live (ok, without the packing and unpacking); going back to school in autumn; and changing the job. Transitions spice up life. Without them, we would be caught in a neverending slumber. The only thing ...

A daily pill – what’s coaching?

By Friday, August 6, 2010 0 Permalink

I finally got to respond to Mihai's tag on coaching - my take on it. So much is said every day about coaching, and most articles or blog posts speak very metaphorically. My own metaphorical definition of myself as a coach is "being a professional muse". Coaching is seeing your life from another perspective. It's like being lifted to ...

Being a Professional Muse

Yesterday I was talking to a dear client, and she shared with me an experience that made me think about the people we surround ourselves with. But let me share the experience first. Episode 1. Enter "The Expert". We all meet experts in our lives - most of them are quite arrogant people, who consider their ...

How to coach your people (even if you’re not a coach)

One of the biggest shifts I've seen in the people I work with was the ability to move from the "Manager" point of view to the "Coach" point of view. Remember my post on "being a People Manager vs. a People Developer"? Well, this approach lies between the two. If your people perceive that you're shifting ...

Life Management – Are you getting the best out of the first 2010 quarter?

At the beginning of 2010 I posted this yearly planner online. As mentioned, setting 10 (or one, or two) New Year's Resolutions is not going to help you much. Oh, ok, writing them down and posting them (like Leo of Zen Habits suggests here) is gonna get you a bit more focused. But what really helps is ...

The Un-Work Life Balance

Inspired by the post of a Romanian career coach here. Lately my days have been shattered by personal quakes. I have a grandmother who is struggling for her final breaths, a friend who just gave birth today to a beautiful baby boy, and I'm planning my wedding for the summer. In the meanwhile, I go to ...

Taking over a new role – 10 Questions you need to ask

I changed my assignment about 7 months ago, in quite an abrupt way, meaning I had to take over the job immediately, while keeping my old responsibilities for a while. I fortunately had a proper and thorough takeover from my predecessor, and had the time to go through most of the key areas in my new ...

How to Minimize Complexity

I think we all agree on the increasing complexity that's in our lives. And, ironically, most of the things that are adding complexity are initially promising to simplify (for a quick example, just open your TV and check out the latest ad for the new mop that will forever take your mind off dusting. But ...

Shift a perspective, change a life

Coaching is a lot about shifting your perspective. As a matter of fact, the best added value, the best "a-ha" effects I've seen in my coaching relationships come from asking the right questions that make the client look at the problem from a different angle. Here are some of the most powerful perspective shifts I've experienced, or ...