Self-actualization and lessons on becoming a Person

Many people tell me I'm calm, a good listener and quite well balanced (yeah, that helps with coaching). Sometimes I laugh and say "You have no idea." I've been doing therapy for one and a half year now. No, I'm not mentally disturbed and I don't have major issues (well, not more than most people out there). Personally, ...

When NOT getting what you wanted became the next best thing

The way this blog started to exist was from deep unhappiness. In 2009, I had, after long attempts to score a much desired job, received an assignment that to me seemed difficult, unrewarding and so much different than what I was built for. Compensation & Benefits was an area that didn't interest me, that I found ...

How to be a better communicator: be aware.

I'm conducting a series of 4 trainings on communication (although I'm not a full time trainer: it just came out that way). And I'm not an expert on communication or building relationships either. Heck, I would even say that is one of my weak areas. But I guess at a certain stage I decided I ...

Transition to a new job Phase 3 – getting up to speed

Did you read "The first 90 days"? It's the best book ever written about the transition process of a newly appointed person, whether it's a new leadership role, a new job, or a new team. The principle there is that you have 90 days to prove.  They should have entitled it "The first 30 days". I've ...

The first steps of a transition

Since ages, I've loved transitions. The first days of falling in love; the changes of seasons; moving to a new place to live (ok, without the packing and unpacking); going back to school in autumn; and changing the job. Transitions spice up life. Without them, we would be caught in a neverending slumber. The only thing ...

Build a Life Changing Habit

If you haven't read at least one article on New Year's Resolutions (yeah, I've got my own)  in the past two weeks, you've been living on another planet. Or don't read blogs too often. Now, as the buzz on New Year's Resolutions wears off, phew, we can all go back to our usual life-consuming boredom. ...Can we? In ...

Moving out = stages of change

I am moving to a new apartment. I was congratulated, received many encouragements, good wishes and the like, yet I look around me in horror. I hate moving. The clutter around, the dust, the confusion as you can't find anything anymore. But in the end, moving out is a renewal process. "You have a few days of ...